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My situation is driving me crazy, I hope somebody can be of help. Anyway, here it goes: My husband is a wonderful man and father, the trouble is, he is unable to say "NO" to anyone, nor can he stand up for himself, he is also a small business owner. For this reason, people take extreme advantage of him. For example, some of his workers "refuse" to wait until payday to get their money and insist being paid on a daily basis. My husband will pay these people however they want to be paid EVEN THOUGH this puts our family in a financial bind. Also, anytime a member of the family needs extra money they TELL my husband not ASK him, if they can go to work with him for a few days. Not only does my husband take them to work with him, he drives all over town to pick them up and PAYS for all his employees' lunches. Our two daughters, of course, has picked up on this and they are now "bossing" him around. Our 20 year old daughter calls everyday for 20 or 30 dollars (I tell her NO, but dad gives in!). Our youngest daughter "demands" her father to take her out everyday for new clothes, toys, etc. While I always say no . . . .he is not able to say no. As I write this, he is taking our daughter out for more toys she doesn't need. Of course, I buy my children what they need, but this is extreme. Other kids at school are noticing how spoiled and rude my youngest child acts. When one of my youngest child's friend's father called the other day to speak to my husband about some trouble the girls got into, my husband ran in the bedroom and hid! I had to deal with the call. This is getting out of hand and is totally embarrassing to me. I have no control over my kids, finances, etc., because everyone goes over my head . . . because my husband gives in to everyone. The worst part about this is when my husband and I are alone, he actually SCREAMS at me because he's "stuck" buying everyone stuff. I don't get it. I am so confused. He has no problem standing up to me behind closed doors. I have tried talking to him about this over and over with no luck. Everyone thinks he's the best guy in the world. I am sick of him giving in to everyone else and then screaming at me in private because he lost control over his finances and blaming me! I am at a total loss in this situation, I will appreciate any help sombody can offer. I should also note that despite the fact that my kids have chores, my husband has "relieved" them of those chores. It is now me who does everything around here. My kids' attitudes are terrible these days.
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Category: Relationship
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