In response to your answer, I have to tell you that he will not see me. He has since changed his cell and home numbers, and is seriously involved with this woman. She comes from a very successful family, and has money. While I am not poor, I dont have nearly as much as she, so I am wondering if this is what he is attracted to her about. Its a complicated situation. I was married, have children. He has never been married, and has no children. She has never been married, and has no children. I just think he really didn't understand what he was getting himself into by being in a relationship with me, who has so many entanglements, and wanted to see what a relationship with no complications was all about. I know he still has feelings for me, I see it in his eyes and in his body language. How could he hold me and tell me he loves me, then two weeks later, start talking to another woman? Why do you think he has done this? I can't move on, I have no closure. I've tried talking to him, I've tried writing letters, and explaining how I feel about him. He doesn't give me anything to go on. Do I let him go and see what happens? Its so hard because he really did love me, I know he did. Why do you think he is with her?
1. Get a positive support system in place for yourself which includes loved ones and friends you can trust and share this extremely painful experience with and who will also help you through it.
2. You are dealing with various normal emotions due to being separated from someone you were once so close to, therefore, if possible, I recommend going to see a therapist, counselor, etc., in person on a weekly basis to help you deal with this (-especially any guilt, hurt, confusion, frustration, anger, etc. that you may naturally feel). If you are religious, your place of worship may have free counseling available (-many churches have free counseling).
3. Write down how you feel in a journal. Then close out each writing session by meditating: close your eyes, breathe in deeply and exhale. At the same time think of something peaceful. For example: a bright blue ocean with deep rich blue waves gently whispering against the beach. Meditating will help you through this difficult time and it will also help you to heal. It will take some time, but you will get through this very painful and difficult time.
4. A book I recommended to my clients dealing with the same situation, which they found helpful, can be found by clicking here: I know it doesn't seem like it now, but slowly and surely you will be able to overcome this.