Tried again tonight. He keeps going on about doing an advert for my Horse because of how much he is costing each month, so I started to say that the horse is worth more to me than any amount he would bring and that by selling him is punishing me and not going to make things right between us, as there are other issues that need to be dealt with. I also compared it to his rugby and what that costs and all he said was "Who works the overtime" he does but only cos I have to look after the kids or I would. He just won't listen, all he talks about is the debt I caused, that my inheritance should not be used to clear the debt, that I should take responsibility and sell the horse to clear some of the debt. I feel as though every reason I put forward, he is not listening and just using the debt issue to basically control me and what I do. I doubt very much Id get him to go to marriage counselling as Ive mentioned it before and he said the only person that can change the way he feels about me is him, but he can't see that Im beginning to hate him too.