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I do not want to ask him about the website because I don't want him to think I don't trust him. If he is up there just chatting then I really don't have a problem with that. I should add that we are long distance - 600 miles apart - so I understand that if he is depressed maybe having someone else to chat with is something he needs sometimes. I am really trying to take his word that he would end things if he wanted something else or was seeing someone else.
He is legally separated, living with his father (whom I have met). He told his wife about me and everything. He has 4 children he is crazy about and I do believe he is depressed that he couldn't forgive his wife for their sake. He was depressed when we met. It just seems that instead of confiding in me as he once did, he has pulled away. He admitted to me that right after he found out, he sat in the bathtub with his pistol (he's a police commander) and a towel around his head - he wanted to kill himself. But that was rock bottom and he really has come a long way since that time. I just want him to be healthy and happy - I love him but am just not sure what to do and am scared I am becoming depressed too. I don't know if I should end the relationship, wait for him to end it, or continue to pray that we can somehow get through this together.
You sincerely XXXXX XXXXX him, therefore, you could decide to continue to be patient with him and to give him more time. However, you must ensure that you do not get mentally or emotionally drained or harmed in doing so especially since you are beginning to get depressed. You could give him some more time along with reading the below book I recommended to my clients dealing with similar situations, which they found helpful, it can be found by clicking here:
You could check your library to see if a copy is available for free if you don't want to buy it. If at anytime you feel as if he may harm himself, you should call your local 911 and advise them of your fear and they could contact his local police department and send someone to check on him.