For Angela... As I mentioned earlier, he's been reading this book I gave him. A few days ago, he told me (rather emotionally) that he identifies with the section on "Stupid Machismo" more than anything else he has read so far. Also, some time ago, during one of our many discussion/arguments, he stated that he "didn't know how to treat me before..." In general, he has been a good husband... responsible, caring, devoted to family, loving. But, for reasons unknown to me, he could be "out of character" - hurtful, selfish...and unwilling/unable(?) to communicate. This behavior worsened over the last several years to the point I was ready to leave. Now...in your first response, you mentioned "comfort level...30 yrs....acting this way". I can imagine that getting older has been just as trying (maybe more so?) for him (and his ego) as it has been for me. Could it simply be a matter of his male ego colliding with his age? Is it possible that he really is the "great guy" I used to believe he was, and not the "ogre/jerk" he seemed to become? (He has told me, "you just don't know me... I am that guy you used to think I was.") What are your thoughts on this?