She says I am lieing if I get a chance at all. But I haven't had a chance for over 5 years at this point. I separated from her step father in 1998, and that was in the middle of her reaquaintence with her natural father. It was spun to her that I was not a good wife to either of them, and both of them fed off the other's faulse information. It was a joint decision for her to be told to get out on her own, which happened before her step father and I seperated, but he spun it to be my decision, saying he had no choice. She then took this to blame me for not going to college. But that doesn't even make a bit of sense. She graduated from high school when she was 15 in a home schooling program, and from that day on, found one excuse after another not to go to college that year. We asked her to leave when she was 20, and refusing to work or go to school. She just got into a habit of blaming me for all her problems early on with the encouragement of her fathers. The both also have the habit, if you haven't gathered already. And although I am complicit to a certain degree, as all parents are, I am not the reason she didn't go to college, or any of the other things she blames on me. I am also not the reason her natural father drinks, or her step father is depressed. She actually got angry with me when I refused to pay the mortgage for her stepfather anymore once I was diagnosed with cancer and had to take off work (truck driver) for treatments. She said it was my obligation since he was disabled due to depression. On a side note, he got a job 2 weeks later, once I cut him off.