I accept your answer as that is what I have been leaning towards, BUT... some of my
closest friends/advisers tell me I should (at my age).. stay put and just ignore my wife & situation and just do as I please and leave the house when she acts up or things get unbearavble....that at my age (70).. I should not be by myself..!!
I agree with you that I deserve to be happy and cannot do it while I am here..and I have already sought legal advice and made arrangements to protect my assets and myself. I have not spoke to her yet about my decisions.. judst abiding my time for the right moment as I need her co-operation to make this happen smoothly and not in anger or her being spitefull or disagreeable.
Thank you again for your further comments...and I agree with you exactly...I feel that being by myself is a lot better than living in constant tension and trying always to avoid confrontations with my combatant wife.. Like i said earlier, I have taken steps already by talking to a lawyer and started putting all my financial assets in one neat pile in case I have to make a suddern departure but i need to make further steps also....MY next biggest concern is my health benefits...I am in pretty good shape and try to take care of myself with diets and exercise but I'm also a diabetic and need medicines and exams by doctor couple times a year...I also see a chiropractor once a month and get
accupuncture for problems with my neck and i also get massages for same problem areas.....all this is now being paid by my wife's employer benefits as she is still working and I am retired since the beginning of this year......NOW my concerns are..
if i divorce my wife I will also lose my medical benefits.....Will I be able to survive on
Medicare and my Va benefits without her medical coverage??? That is something I have to check out also...!!!
I also want to move from NJ to Virginia where I can live cheaper I think.... for housing, food and almost everything else..especially tax-wise.. I own four acres of land near a large lake in Virginia and my dream always was to build on it when I retired
and I expect hopefully after divorce to keep this property...dont know if i will ever afford to build after the divorce settlement clears.. ha ha
So....thats where I stand right now...and if you can add any further comments to my problems I would certainly appreciate it.