It is possible that your wife is confused (she either is having an affair but not sure if she wants to remain married) or she really had made up her mind to also split and be with him. It is important to know how long she had been having an affair (if this is something recent or if it goes back) If she had been seeing him for a short amount of time, she is still in the in love stage (when people fall in love and think that the rest of their life with that person will be all romantic and conflict free) Of course, with time, as the two people get used to each other, the in love stage moves to being more familiar (where he would not be romancing her as often, etc) Perhaps she is having a mild life crisis.
If you think she is confused (since it is not fair to keep in hoping ) see if she wants to go to couple's counseling. Her response may be an indicator of her feelings for you and how serious she's on keeping the marriage.
This is question for Angela
thank you.. she said she has feeling for him.she is arab and he is american. she is 36 and he is 53 she said she has fun with him. what can i do to have her back.. i love herhow long this relationship will last? when she left me she jum in to this guy and he was my attorney