These are things I already do. She always tends to feel persecuted no matter the honest approach. The issue I need to discuss with her is her know-it-all, loud, attention getting behavior in a group of company. It's embarrassing, not only to those who love her, but in the process she embarrasses herseslf the most.
She was raised in a model family structure with loving parents, brother and extended family.
The girls in hs were quite critical of each other and she tended to be bullied in that high- school-girl sort of way. She has always since had a hard exterior and unknowingly attempts to control focus on herself by attempting to be the center of attention.
As her mother, I feel she deserves my guidance. It's seems no matter how and when I try to do this (especially since her Dad died 4 yrs ago) she turns the conversation around to me and I become the target.
I need advice that speaks to my past experience with this and what I can do with her type personality that's new.