thank you and i know i need to focus on what my current situation is and what i need to do. Right now can you tell me if i should call him or text him. Last night we had a few words that were not so nice. I do not know if i should contact him at all saying i wish him the best or just stop all communication as of now. I truly care about him and i know he does for me, he is just scared of being hurt again and feeling love because of his past of losing his parents etc..I just want to be there for him but not be to pushy or appear needy at all. It is like he is one way one day and then he shuts down the next day. My husband knows something is going on, we are not getting along at all right now, and he is a wonderful person, i am just not in love with him. I love this other man. I need to figure out what to do at this point i guess.