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I just broke up with my bf two weeks ago because we had been

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I just broke up with my bf two weeks ago because we had been having troubles in the relationship and fighting a lot about him not making enough effort for me. I found out that he kissed another girl at his birthday party when i had just left. they were both intoxicated. I only found this out a few days ago and i contacted him about him and he couldnt admit it. so we havent had contact for a week now. im trying to move on but i keep thinking about it..and what answers but theres no point because we arnt together. He is now rebound dating this girl i think...right after i broke up with him. He was my first love and this happened last year he came running back to me two months later.
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr. Keane replied 7 years ago.
Hi and welcome

Intoxication causes people to do things they normally wouldn't do but if he is now dating her I would suggest you wait it out and see what happens. If you are not happy with him, maybe it was time for you to break up. You are young and will have plenty of opportunity down the road. Not to dismiss your feelings for him because you were his girlfriend . It's a bit immature to not talk to him unless he makes the effort, that's childish. If you feel you want to talk to him about this after awhile, you can. Right now you are both angry and he is using rebound as a way for him to feel better and possible to annoy you. Don't buy it. Be the mature one and settle it when you are ready. Time does help. Good luck.
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Customer: replied 7 years ago.
thankyou that hepled so much. Yeah im not too sure if hes dating this girl but thats what i heard through the grapevine. Im not going to contact me untill he makes an effort to talk to me first and apologise about everything. At the moment he has a fathead. My friends say i shouldn;t take him back if he wants me back, but i still love him and attracted to him but i know he hasnt been treating me right. unless he learns his lesson about respecting me im not to sure..
Expert:  Dr. Keane replied 7 years ago.
Hi, good I am glad I was able to help you. I know it's a hard time to go through but you show respect to yourself first, then others (the ex) will respect you. If he deserves you back he'll show that but not by rebound dating. Good luck

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Customer: replied 7 years ago.
Do you also think he will contact me again?
It has been 5days so far without any contact
Expert:  Dr. Keane replied 7 years ago.
Hi Rachael,

No crystal balls here to predict whether he will or not but you have to give it time, if he doesn't come back, then he didn't deserve your love. You have to look at it from what is positive in it, even if it feels awful, painful etc. If you want to talk to him by all means contact him but remember what I said earlier, be the mature one, when you talk about what he did....last time he came back two months later. Having said that, is that what kind of relationship you desire? One where you are put on hold while he dates others? I hope not, you deserve better.I know this is really painful for you but it's also the way things in life happen and we all go through it at one time or another. I wish I could predict what he will do so you don't have to suffer but I can't.
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