He did end up leaving her for himself, it wasn't for me. I didn't want him to leave her because of me, I know how wrong that is. My main issue now is that he is having such a hard time trusting me. Tells me that I have to prove myself to him. I'm concerned that there may be some possessive or control issues. If I don't answer my cell phone, he's questioning why. He asked for my email and facebook passwords so he could check up on me. I think that was extremely wrong! He admits now that it was wrong, but the point is that he did it! He says that it is hard to trust me with him being so far away and that if or when he comes back that he wouldn't be that way. He says that he has never been jealous like this before.
I'm concerned that my seeing someone while he was still with his wife is such a big issue, when i've had to deal with waiting for him while he figured things out with her. He even came back to me and then left me again. Should I be concerned that he is making such a big deal about this? Is he always gonna be "checking up on me", trying to control where I go and what I do?
The stupid thing is that I trust him, he has never lied to me (as far as I know), not that that makes things any better, but he has always told me everything, whether it hurt me or not. His wife and I have both known about eachother this whole time.
I have been through a possessive controlling relationship before and I can't handle another one! I would like to believe that he wouldn't be like that if he was actually living here, but i'm a little scared.
He says it's not the fact that I dated someone, it's that I lied to him about it at first. I agree that a relationship is built on trust, but I didn't tell him at first because I really didn't think that it should be an issue considering he was still with his wife. I am concerned that he is making such a big deal about it.
Thank you for your help.