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It sounds like the guy is not in search of long term commitment and would like to keep have many options. If you're seeking a long term committed relationship, this may not be the one you'd want to go after. Of course, you can make that decision for yourself and what works best for you. From what you've shared it sounds like he wants to explore other relationships as well as the one with you.
Hi Dr Rossi,
Thank you for your honest feedback. I believe you could be right in that he wants to explore other relationships and therefore for me all I want to offer him is friendship as I do want a commited relationship and it does not sound like he wants this at present.
One thing though that makes me anxious is the fact that recently I have been nervous or anxious to even ring him because i have this fear that he actually does not want to get to know me. It probably sounds silly you might say. My other worry is fear of not knowing what to say.
He text me there today and 'asked me if I was ok and how was my work going'. I said fine and how he was'. He replied that he was alright but not looking forward to his return to work after the holidays'. I asked him if I could ring for a chat? He replied 'not at the min, maybe another time. I asked him if there was anything wrong and he said that he had a bad headache and was struggling with some prepatory coursework prior to his return to work. I wished him well and left it at that.
I think that this does sound like a guy who does not want to know me and if so it is when it suits him and not me.
Would my interpretation be correct, do you think?
I'd really be grateful if you could advise me on my query above?
Again thank you for your advice, it was very straightforward and honest.
I contacted this guy today and made general comments etc but to determine his true interest in me I aske if he would like to go to the pictures sometime next week. He replied 'not sure about next week with the very bad weather we are having etc'. I replied 'completley understand and wished him well'. His vague reply told me everything I wanted to know.
Many thanks again.