It sounds like you know what you want. There is nothing wrong with wanting autonomy and to have more money and not try to satisfy someone else meanwhile.
As far as whether to stay with him or not, the choice will have to come from you. This to an extent is going to be based on your belief if of whether you can have what you need while you are with him. It is not impossible to be committed to someone and still have some autonomy. It is even healthy to want to have autonomy in any relationship.
Of what you're saying he is trying to please you. Nothing wrong with that either. Perhaps you could find a way to get both the guy and your own satisfaction. Afterall, inner freedom and satisfaction come from within and we do not truly rely 100% on someone else. Any relationship may have money problems if not now at a later time. You never know. At least you know what his guy is all about versus going with the unknown. Do some soul searching and see where you get.