no, he left me and saw her for about 6 months and now were trying again. We were together 7 years enaged for about 5. We were still together and "trying" for a month before he left, but he wasnt trying, he was planning his move and speaking romantically with her...he even saw her several times.
the expecatation, commitmant and hurt are the same for her and me.
he saw her 6 months, but promised 20 years....the same as 7 years together and a commitment to our lives together.