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Thanks for your reply and I completely accept that there are lots of red flags but for me to move on I would like to get some closure.
I really want to know if in your experience with a situation like this he will make contact at some point. I am concerned that he will eventually feel bad about not getting in touch and that will make him less inclined to make contact fearing rejection or harsh words from me when he does. I have not initiated any contact since I last saw him and as you have seen my reply to his text was short and without emotion.
I'm sure in the long run I am better off without this guy but I can't help thinking it was something I did. He managed to sustain a 10 year marriage and subsequently a six month relationship so I don't honestly think he is a commitment phobic. he has managed relationships before but has been addicted to pain killers for about two years in the past and so has an addictive personality I am assuming.
I am beating myself up thinking it was me or that it was too much too soon and he pulled back. I know he told his daughters about me and he had asked me to meet them more or less straightaway but I declined saying it was too soon for me and for them. I saw this as a sign he was genuine and wanted to move the relationship on.
So back to my question, is it likely he will contact me again or do I just accept it's finished and I am cast out for good.
Honestly I am a mature, educated, professional woman and not used to feeling like this but I got badly hurt here.