It helps to hear other people's opinions. I guess in truth it really is up to me. This is a whole new area for me really. Growing up I was told all of that stuff was a sin, so when I was married I enjoyed the oral sex on me, but was afraid to admit that I enjoyed it, so I was riddled with guilt most of the time. But over the years I have learned and researched things out, except for this area of "swallowing". That seems ridiculous to me, but if it makes my partner feel complete then I will do that. It may gross me out, but I am willing to explore this area. I also feel however, if it becomes repulsive to me and I can't do it, then he needs to be considerate of me as well.