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Dear justanswer.com: On August 1, my wife informed me that she had decided to move out; this was just 2 days short of our 29th anniversary. On September 1, she did in fact move out to a friends house and has been there since then except to pick up clothes and necessities. She can't give me a reason why she left except that we've become different people with little or nothing in common. We have two grown kids that don't know what this has occured. I don't believe there is another man in her life as far as I know. My question is how do I deal with this awful pain. I miss her so bad and just don't know what to do to win her back. I understand that others say not to beg her come back (which I haven't). But I get the feeling she's not hurting nearly as much as I am. Any advice you give would be greatly appreciated!
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.
Hello

What are your ages?

Do you agree that you've grown apart and no longer have anything in common?

Do you spend time together?

Are you working? What other things do you do to keep busy?


Chase
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
Dear Chase,

Thanks for your reply!I

I'm 51 and my wife just turned 48.

As far as growing apart, maybe to some degree. We used to to be very involved with our kids lives which, once they went to college, lessened a lot. I guess having a house, garden, dogs, etc may have not been enuf. I asked what could I do to bring us back together (eg: cooking classes, dancing classes, etc) and no response.

Do we spend time together? That's a good question. My wife took on a part-time job at XXXXX XXXXX at the local mall in addition to her full-time job and our time together is very limited with her working 55+ hours per week. I think this may be our major problem.

Yes, I'm working fulltime with a well-paying job. Other things to keep busy? Not much besides work and keeping the house maintained (eg: lawn, cars, garden, etc)

Once again, any advice would be great...hoosierinpain
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
Dear Chase,

Thanks for your reply!I

I'm 51 and my wife just turned 48.

As far as growing apart, maybe to some degree. We used to to be very involved with our kids lives which, once they went to college, lessened a lot. I guess having a house, garden, dogs, etc may have not been enuf. I asked what could I do to bring us back together (eg: cooking classes, dancing classes, etc) and no response.

Do we spend time together? That's a good question. My wife took on a part-time job at XXXXX XXXXX at the local mall in addition to her full-time job and our time together is very limited with her working 55+ hours per week. I think this may be our major problem.

Yes, I'm working fulltime with a well-paying job. Other things to keep busy? Not much besides work and keeping the house maintained (eg: lawn, cars, garden, etc)

Once again, any advice would be great...Customer

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