Are you looking for legal advice on where you should go from here, or are you seeking relationship advice?
Hi I guess both really I am totally isolated where I am living as our house is miles from anywhere we bought here 9 yrs ago so lost contact with everyone and have no family around at all except for my older son who is very ill and has been for yrs he lives with my ex husband now not this one I was married before .I never wanted to buy a house out here but as usual I never got a say in the matter just gave in and did as I was told.Because of my health problems and I dont drive very far & I also have panic attacks when I leave the house for very long which makes everything much harder .My son has aspergers and other learning problems we are getting along so much better and are much less stressed now without my h living here.He has never been of any help from when my son was born he is and was totally absorbed in his work and himself.We have not seen or heard from him for 1 mnth now and he is not taking any resposibility for anything,he wasnt responsibile when he lived here either
just expected everything to be the way he wanted it.I am at a loss of what to do I did not think he would abandon his son they got along quite well but my son never liked his treatment of me and he told him that before he left .Its like he is now hating his own son because my son told him that he has a terrible temper and his behaviour is not ok.I had told my husband this also because the last time he was here he threw something at me and I told him I will not tolerate it any longer.I realise that I should have called the police but I didnt I was too scared to as his mother frightens me as well.This is a very complex situation and I really dont know what to do any help would be appreciated thank you,I live in Australia I am not sure where this site is from ?
It sounds like you have been though the ringer here, and it sounds like you need some legal advice. I am a relationship counselor so I can not help you with the legal aspects but I will go ahead and have this question switched to the legal category where they can assist you with the legal aspects of your question.
You have said he is physically and verbally abusive, and while he may have been working on changing the reality is this is a dangerous situation for you and your child. While it would be great if he could changes, the fact that he has abandoned you and your child tells me he has not changed and likely will not.
Right now you are in a situation where you need to make some changes in your life. But the first step is deciding where to go as far as your marriage. Once you deal with the legal situation you will be more prepared on where to go from here. That may mean moving to where you have more support from your family or finding a support network where you are right now. In the end allowing him back into your life is not a good idea, he has hurt you and your son and right now you need to start picking up the pieces and moving on.
I am going to go ahead and ask the moderators on Just Answer to go ahead and move you to the legal department where you can get the information you need on how to proceed.
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I wish you the best,