1. Food business - the new hire is for an outside sales position working from her home several states away. However, she will be accompanying him to Food shows, product showings, and make many trips to his home office..
2. Actually, I have never checked up on him or questioned him in the past. He was previously married from 1960 to 1969 (I met him in 1975 - so did not know of wife) has a 43 year old daughter from that marriage. However, he did have a mistress during that marriage who was an employed at a satelitte plant (different business than now). He had explained that his wife had been unfaithful and he had lover because he was lonely. Since his wife was married once prior to him and 5 times since him, I believed the story. I have always been an executives wife and his sales people have all been men. Also, he has always told me about his hires and I have often looked at resumes and given him my input when asked. This was a surprise because he mentioned her NAME since I had never heard about this woman - I then asked him to "tell me about her". I did not have room on the previous page to also add that when I GOOGLED her name and photo appeared, and Christian info etc occurred - he then pushed me with his shoulder in a mennacing stance and point his finger and gestured forcefully and with a red face and said, "And I am covered because she is performing and no one can accuse me of anything". I think he said this cause he just setteled a wrongful termination suit involing a male factory worker - and has lawsuits on his mind.
3. Well, regarding the delusional statements, I did voice my concern that this was extremely odd and to me, it was totally out of character. I stated that if all was on the up and up, why did he hide her existance and only accidently blurt it out to me in those terms?? - 28 year old attractive little brunette, etc. I said, "where the heck did that come from?"
A. His first explanation was that he didn't tell me because he knew I wouldn't approve.
B. After a day or two - he told me he hadn't told me because he "knew he made a mistake, and hoped she would leave, or it would all disappear OR I wouldn't find out for a long time IF EVER???
C. He constantly states that, "I am reading into it." So, I guess that is what I am wrestling with. How can I be reading anything into anything - facts are facts.
Frankly, when he was pushing me and yelling at me, I was shocked. ALso, I started thinking of a few recent things that have happened and think that I do have a reason to be concerned.
Two weeks prior to this incident, I accompanied him to Las Vegas where he have a couple of talks to Brokers that sell his produces. While there, as a surprise, I arranged to have our Vows Renewed - as a surprise to him. We had talked about it a couple of years ago with the kids coming along - but my father got cancer and that put the end to that. Well, he was a grumpy faced guy the whole time - and I have the photos to prove it. The minister even told him to, "Lighten up! How about a Smile!" I was crying with emotion and he was grump. NOW, in hindsight - I wonder if the 28 year old girl was in Vegas WITH US??
Another wierd thing was that after the Vow Renewal, the limo brought us back to the Luxor Hotel - I had arranged a nice private dinner. I went into the ladies room which was just inside of the lobby carrying my rose bouquet. When I came out - he had removed his bouttonaire - and made me return to our room to "Dump the Bouquet!"
He also said that he "didn't want anyone to see us with the flowers and ASK QUESTIONS - and that it was NOBODY's BUSINESS. NOW, I wonder who was in the hotel becaue I did NOT meet a soul - any of the brokers - and was not invided to join any of the meetings, have dinner, coffee, etc. He said I should just enjoy the time and he would be back when meeting over - which he was - and he napped in room till dark. I was only there for 2 nights - and we took different planes home. SO NOW, I wonder if he stayed extra days with the girl? You know with cell phones he can be any where he wants to and I do not know. I NEVER call him on the office phone - just on cell. He has taken to carrying a cell that only I and the children call and a cell that is his "Office Cell" - yess - two cell phones at the same time time.
On, I have NEVER checked the cell calls - BUT - he almost fainted when I went to my ATT account and showed him how I could show him that he ahd spoken to me 10 minutes prior to the 28 year olds welcome luncheon - and not mentioned he was going to the luncheon. Also, he was at the home office in another state at that time of luncheon. AND, while checking the cell - he did not speak to me until 11:30 am the following day. He had told me he was TIRED.
SO, am I delusional or right on the beam. He is very concerned that I do NOT mention a word of this to our son and daughter. He told me that several years ago, when our son accompanyed him to the Super Bowl in Detroit, my son had told him that if he EVER cheated on me my son would write him off and never speak another word to him. And, of course my daughter and husband would probably follow suit. I told my husband that I have to think about this situation - however, he keeps asking me what I want to do. He sais he loves me and I am just over-reacting. HELP?