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my gf broke it off after 5 mths because im in maine and shes

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my gf broke it off after 5 mths because im in maine and shes in oregon. she says she still loves me but the distance is too great. it was over night too wednesday she said she loved me ans couldnt get enough of me to i have to figure out if this is what i want how do i get her back?
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  KimberlyF replied 6 years ago.
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It sounds like the only you thing you can do to make things right is to think about moving closer or in the same town, if the distance is the only problem then thinking about relocating is probably the only solution. The challenges you face as a long distance couples can be harder than people that are in normal relationships where they see each other all of the time, depending on what level the relationship is on. The relationship is new, and has not been given enough time to develop, the challenge to keep it alive is greater than if there has been more time shared. What you are going to have to do now is think positive. Don't look at your relationship as being doomed, because of the distance between you and your girlfriend. Think of an end goal to the separation or possible relocation of either you or your girlfriend. You and your girlfriend should agree on the time frame as to when this arrangement will happen.The deadline should be mutually agreed, because if it's just one partner setting the date, the other partner may feel pressured and may even find the relationship an impediment to personal growth.

 

Communication is a must more so in a long distance relationship. With internet, reaching out to your partner is no longer impossible. Emails and phone calls are great ways to establish intimacy, and can bridge that distance. Also, take the time to write long loving letters to each other to spice up the romance. Try to plan to meet at least once a week and if that is not possible once a month. This is an important step to keep the relationship alive and if you consider your relationship a priority, you would find ways to meet up, even though it may get expensive sometimes. It adds up to the excitement whenever you and your partner has a date to look forward to, like a shared weekend or even a once a month date. Build up the trust, it's normal to feel fear and anxiety that your partner may become unfaithful because of the fact that you are not together most of the time but in order for the relationship to last then she needs to know a time that the two of you would possibly be together I think that would ease her mind alot.

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Customer: replied 6 years ago.
she said that she needed space and that her father had told her that she needs to think it through. i havent talked to her in 4 days. like i said she wants to be broken up but needs to think about things. do i not contact her? she said that she wants to be alone but also wants to leave a light on. i told her im confused and she said that she said all she could
Expert:  KimberlyF replied 6 years ago.
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