Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX initial post cut me off since it was quite long. Dave is great, but we haven't been intimate for 6 months or so-even kissing! I'm not attracted to him at all. We just got back from Florida and I thought maybe it would bring some intimacy back, but it didn't. He eats terrible, doesn't exercise and is on 2 blood pressure meds! He's 38, 6'7", and not overweight either. (I used to be a weight trainer and my ex husband was a professional ultimate fighter. We were both in incredible shape.)
I would like him to step up and take some responsibility. I do like to have control on many issues, but I think it's b/c I've never dated or been with someone who is really responsible, so I feel like I must be the one to take total responsibility. If I ask Dave to do something, he'll do it. There's just no initiative or ambition to make his life much better than it is. He's also very lazy. We always talk about doing fun things, but never really do. We don't share any hobbies. I've initiated plans to do things, but I get so tired of always being the one to do so. He's never in 3 years even planned to take me to a nice dinner. It's always, "What do you feel like doing/eating?" For once, I'd like him to be a man! Make a decision, have some goals, etc. My goals have become his goals. It doesn't seem like he has any of his own.
I don't want any children and that's not an issue with us.
Part of me thinks I like to be with men that need "fixing". Like, they need me to show them a better way of life, etc. I don't want to fix someone though. I want someone that also takes care of me.