Well..here's the update - we didn't see each other Sunday. I called him and left him a vmail on Saturday at noon, to tell him that I had my kids this weekend, and would he like to come over to my house, for us to go to his house, or to meet another time when I didn't have my kids. I didn't hear from him. So Sunday at noon, I sent him a txt msg, simply saying, "Inquiring minds want to know if we will be seeing you today?" I got no response whatsoever.
In addition, my daughter had his phone number on her phone from the past (for emergencies) - she's 9. She thought it would be funny to call him, and say to him in Turkish, "this is Lexi" - because he had taught this to her. I gave her permission to call - simply because it was about 3 minutes after I'd sent the txt to him asking if we were going to see him (so I didn't know he wasn't going to respond) - I figured he'd simply say whether he was coming or not. so she called, he answered. She said, "Benim adim Lexi - are you coming over for dinner today?"...and he hung up on her.
Am I dealing with someone who is mentally unstable? I mean - even if you ignore the hangup (which is hard to do) - give him an excuse that he was caught off-guard and acted immaturely in hanging up - to make plans and not even respond when asked if they are going to happen? He could have sent a txt msg that said, "no....not coming"? I can understand having a change of heart - maybe he was feeling vulnerable on Thursday when I spoke to him - so was saying I miss you, etc. and willing to get together...and then later decided it wasn't something he wanted to do? But the behavior that went with this...makes zero sense to me from a 49 year old man.
i think he's depressed...I'm wondering if he's bi-polar, as his daughter is, and I know it runs in families. All of this is obviously "guessing"...but I'm having a heck of time trying to rationalize where I came from with him (meeting, immediate proposal, seemingly great relationship to abrupt end, little to no contact, behavior like what I've said here...yet verbally acting like we're still connected when we do talk). I really don't get it....