Welcome back to JustAnswer. One question, Did you say he wants to live with her?
It is way too soon for that and your daughter needs to be careful that she doesn't feel sorry for him and then gives in because he could use her, he knows that she has a stable job whereas he works temp jobs it seems and he will depend alot on her income and I don't think that they are at that stage yet nor will they be anytime soon. Your daughter is forgetting that not even a week or so ago he stormed out on her and she didn't hear from him, that could be a warning sign that he isn't mature enough to be in a serious relationship. Letting him move in would be the worse mistake of your daughter's life because she still doesn't know him all that well yet. She needs to slow things down and tell him that she isn't ready for anyone to live with her. I think she needs to take a long look at his actions since she has met him and then ask herself is he really worth all of this confusion and if the answer to that question is no then I would walk away and not look back.
I don't think he is doing it intentionally but I do feel he has some issues that he needs to work out before he can be any good to anyone. He is very wishy washy when it come to what he wants out of life and in the future. Your daughter has to take out the equation that someone handsome likes her and look at his character because she doesn't want to find herself taking care of a grown man while they live with her. It's Conveince for him to move in with her because he has no where to go and it seems like he wants her to feel badly for him and say for him to move in with her. What I would do is tell your daughter to think long and hard about this guy and his intentions. Just because he shows her attention does not mean that he is the right guy for her if he has issues both family issues and finding a job and staying in one placethen maybe now is not the time for him to want to date your daughter. She has to be careful not only to get her heart broken but for someone to take advantage of her kindness.
Yes she will definitely hold it against you if you are wrong and he really did care about her and wanted to be with her but she also has to be careful just in case he had his sights on her all along. But like every other parent you have to allow your child to live and learn from their mistakes and I think that may be what you have to do in this case because there is a point we have to allow our children to stand on their own and make their own happiness. I think if he were going to use her he would be doing so right now like, borrowing money and making her pay for dinners and when they go out and if he isn't doing that then he may have noble intentions but she just has to keep her eyes open and look for the warning signs if there are any. You can tell her to leave him alone but usually they will make their own decision anyway.
This is a fairly new relationship so my suggestion to her is to slow it down a bit because if his feelings are true then he will still like her when they are taking things slow I think he is doing some of these things and making some of these decisions because he is a bit desperate for a place to stay right now and that is why I said she needs to be careful. The true test would be if she tells him she wants to slow things down as to whether he stays or leaves. What she should do is go to where he is if only for a weekend and see how he acts in his own surroundings and if he acts and treats her differently than he does back where they are living now then that would be her que to stop things and move on, why waste her time on someone that doesn't even know what he wants and where he wants to be. I would give it another week or two to judge how things are. If he didn't care about her at all he would not have asked her to come to the Ocean but that is truly a decision she will have to make.