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How do I announce to my family and friends that my 2 year marriage

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How do I announce to my family and friends that my 2 year marriage is over. With out going in to all the nasty details. Where can I find stationary on this subject or what do I say in a short note?

Joni
Cincinnati, Ohio
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  KimberlyF replied 5 years ago.

HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on JustAnswer. By the way, it would help us to know:

 

-How long were you married?

 

-Do you want to send a card or write little notes saying your are getting divorced?


-Could you explain your situation a little more?

Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.

Customer: replied 5 years ago.

Kimberly,

I met him online and married him after dating him for 5 months. I was single for 16 years and waiting for the right one. A Christian man!!!

We have been together for 2 years and he has taken me for all I have worked so hard for. I am in financial ruin and am also looking at loosing my home. I will be 44 years young in June. I had a good paying job 17.00 hour, 2 thousand in savings and equity in my home. When we married I quite my job to move north with him. Not only has he taken my financially he has lied to me about everything! He is not a christian. He is very heavily into porn and escort services. I left him in March and 10 days after I left he moved a woman and her 1 year old in our house. I think he is the father!!!

I have a lot of guilt and shame right now. And find it hard to go to the same places if fear of running into my friends. I don't know what to say. I fear their judgement, not to my face of course...

I just think an announcement of sort will get the word out and I don't want to do any explaining in the announcement really. My closest friends and family know and fully support me.

If you have a different suggestion that's fine. I'm really lost and just want to be free of him and this shame. I feel the sooner I tell everyone... well, that part will be over with :)

 

Joni

Expert:  KimberlyF replied 5 years ago.
Customer

 

If it's that important to you to let them know maybe you should just send out a Divorce Announcement they have become very popular when you want to let people know you are divorcing without having to go into details. Just to let you know you are not obligated to tell them anything even the fact that you are divorcing if they are the kind of friends that talk behind your back they are going to talk no matter what the issue is so it's really up to you if you would like to let them know about your divorce so they won't ask when you see them just send out an announcement and include in your writing "My privacy during this time would be appreciated" then they know discussing the topic is off limits and that if they want to be your friend be there when "you" ask them to be not when they feel like being nosy, your business is just that "your business" I've included several links that deal with divorce announcements. You can also write a mass email telling everyone just stating that you are getting a divorce and your privacy would be appreciated during this time. I hope this has helped you and if you need anymore of my help please click reply it is free to do so.

 

http://www.tressugar.com/750385

 

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/210247/things_to_know_about_sending_out_divorce.html

 

 

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Customer: replied 5 years ago.

Kimberly,

Thanks so much! I know what you said is true. It's just that if and when I run into people, they will assume that I'm in town visiting and ask "How's married life" and tell me how happy I lookYell.

I'm just not prepared to answer their questions with out giving them details. I can't talk about him or the situation without crying. My emotions are very raw. I can't talk about it... or, I can't stop talking about and I don't want anyone that doesn't need to know details, to know just how wrong I was in choosing him. If possible I want to get the word out and that be the end of it.

 

Thank you again,

 

Joni

Expert:  KimberlyF replied 5 years ago.
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