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Experience:  USC, BS Psych & Soc.; Transactional Analaysis; U.S. A. D&A Counseling, Family Advocacy, Anger Mngmnt
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Hi, my name isXXXXX My husband loves me dearly. But after

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Hi, my name isXXXXX My husband loves me dearly. But after 27 years I am ready to leave the Relationship; although I don't want to. He has started SMOKING. I cannot stand it, i don't smoke, i am a R.N and have seen the effects; and he has had 2 heart attacks.. I don't want to sleep with someone who smellsl

I am so so so stressed. Im feeling like I cannot cope at all. I don't know where to turn. I am so beside myself. He is a wonderful caring man, but I have been so so much in the last 27 years. I sorta don't know what to do? i feel like I should make some sort of Decsion... but I have just turned 50 and He is all i have ever known... Besides work, and 2 kids..

Please Help, I'm so despairing... :(
Regards XXXXX
Submitted: 8 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ed Johnson replied 8 years ago.



As a nurse, I am sure you have already spoken to him about your concerns about his health.


The health concerns go beyond his personal needs. He should know that the second hand smoke, even off his clothing and hair, can affect your health.


Kissing him is like kissing an ash tray,as some have said.


It is not unusual nor extradordinary, that you may have to take desperate measures befor divorce.


One such thing is counselling. AND the biggest statement you can make is a brave one.


Sometimes tough love reactions are needed.


You can try moving into a seperate bedrooms. Seperate bedrooms sends a strong message.


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