i recently have stupidly monitored my wife masterbating whilst calling the name of an exboyfriend. and my suspicious nature lead me to further monitor what she was doing... we love each other so desperatley after 25 years of mariage i cannot live without this image coming into my mind everyday. i feel it really is killing me..
HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on JustAnswer. By the way, it would help us to know:
-Has she been in contact with the ex boyfriend?
-Are you afraid she may cheat on you with the ex?
-How often does she mention his name?
-Could you explain your situation a little more?Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.
the other guy did not know he was bieng set up. but my jealousy caused me to confess that i had monitored the wife. and i have confronted him.
my wife is so controlled and caring about this im almost sure she is telling me the truth and has asked me to talk to you to seeif you can help.
she did whilst masterbating mentioned his name once
however whilst driving to this liason she did for no rational reason say (im falling for you)
strange as she was in the car by herself. im sure subconscious. and when confronted with some of the things she said that were intimate she says she cant remember saying it or that it was part of the play acting scenario. as i said she is willing to take a poly test to prove that she has no feeling for him
If she reassures you that she doesn't have feelings for this ex then you really need to believe her or the marriage could be in trouble. A major part of any marriage or relationship is trust and if you lose that then more than likely your marriage may not last so it's important for you to work on those trust issues that you are having because your wife mentioned her ex's name during masturbation. If it was a play action scenario then more than likely she just thought of a name from her past. What you are going to have to do is until you have contrete proof that you have anything to worry about is forget about her saying his name and work on your marriage and getting the trust back if she says she can't remember saying those things then it wasn't as important to her as you are making it important to you. If you know that your wife loves you and is devoted to you then there really isn't anything to worry about. Love conquers all but having no trust can destroy that love very quickly so try to get pass this and try to make your marriage stronger and healthier through communication and honesty.