When all this issues... religion, personal values, medical things, love, all are like in
differente directions... like a collition (please excuse my english) to whom I could ask
counselling better... ?
The pastor in a church will just talk to me about sin... and about making efforts to save my marriage from an spiritual view..
the psiquiatrist or psychologist is very logical ..but excludes the spiritual solutions a lot... because everything has to be 'practical'...
the love not always has all the answers... due to inexperience, and this lack of sexual experience is because my religion of course I never was a promiscous person so my husband was a very unexperienced relation.
Another question I forgot, Chase, if I supect my husband is really retarded in his intellectual... how can I test him for sure.... he works a lot, and makes his money yes, but he is unable to a lot of things... not even write or read well, none maths, he is very shy speaking so even for going to the bank or the doctor I have to go with him... to do the speakiing!.. he abuses alcohol... and never seems drunk but he drinks a lot.
All this things during all this years... make me think he does have a problem, of some mental retardation, it is impossible to speak to him... he just scream at a lot o things... and make his own interpretations about what is say to him.
If I talk about sex.... he doesn't like to be taught by a woman he says..he is a man!..
How would you suggest... I make some sort of IQ test on him... so I verify if his problem is that he is retarded. Because it is impossible to talk to him about any serious issues.. and that cheating he had once... was just by letters..nothing physical, and because he belief (he admits) that I think he is stupid.. and I don't love him. His mom also dominates him a lot.. and he is already 50!. If his mom says your wife...doesn't loves you... he just belief her!.
How could I test him... about his IQ... without him knowing. I think that is the real problem of our sexual problems... because he doesn't understand nothing!. And Yes I have some decision to make. Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!