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I read everything you said, and it seems like he does have an issue with his penis. This could be related to size, something a woman has said to him at one point, or something from his family life, possible his mother. You said that you've been intimate with him, and I did not hear any complaints from you, but that doesn't mean that he still doesn't have an issue with his size. He could have some kind of mark on it as well that he is self conscious about.
This can be gotten past with time, but not by force. The more intimate you are with each other, it will be possible for him to open up more as he trusts you. You can start by doing small things, nothing too noticeable, and always very sincere. When you make love, be sure to mention over the next day or two what you liked about it. You can compliment him on different things. You can tell him if you like his legs, his back, his hips, as close to 'that' area without actually saying that area. You can stroke his lower back and tell him what a sexy spot it it. Tell him how you love his legs. Eventually when he's more comfortable, you can tell him how much you love his penis, and how it turns you on (that is if you feel comfortable saying so), how you enjoy making love to him, how much fun it is, how sexy it is, etc. After a while of doing this (again, not over-doing it). You can start talking to him about how you love to see him with no clothes on, etc.
In the meantime, don't bring it up, don't talk about it, don't try to force him in any way and especially do NOT tease him about it at all. Men cannot take teasing the way women can. In fact, if you are in the shower, or you come across him nude, maintain eye contact, walk up to him, kiss him, hold him, but don't look down. After a while he won't feel that its a focus and will be more comfortable about the whole thing.
I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.