These are the things that made me insecure.
She cheated on her first husband....just 1 time...she said she felt guilty. I think he was a jerk ...she had known him for 20 years however. The guy She cheated on him with....she got back together with him just once after her divorce....I met her a month later. She kept the guys picture of the 2 of them on her computer for our first 7 months together...I had to tell her to eventually take it down. Last year when she opened my Valentine present...it reminded her of him and she smiled and told me an anecdote about them...I told her later that it made me feel weird...she told me he was a love of her life and that know she feels she can't talk about anything. She's not social...unless its a guy she's attracted to. And she always checks online to see what her ex's are up to...Myspace etc.
She looks at other guys...and tells me it's no big deal if I look at other women.
In her defense I can get paranoid sometimes...however I feel like the things she is doing is making me paranoid. One time I looked to see what my ex was doing...and she got upset.....it made me feel like she was projecting.