Explain to him how you felt about him giving you the money he may just be trying to buy your affection and doesn't know how to win your affection himself because he has been out of the loop for so long. He may have truly wanted to help you out with giving you the money and saw that you were being leery about accepting it and that is why he insisted that you take it. I think you should tell him how you feel and hopefully you will get the truth as to why he gave you the money and what he expects from you and the relationship. If there are warning signs go with your gut instinct. If you feel he is trying to control you with the money then do not accept it no matter how much he insists that you do. Explain to him that he cannot buy your love and that you want it to happen naturally and not be pushed on you.