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-What are his reasons for not tell his mother about his child?
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If he says that his mother is dirty and isn't nice to him he is probably afraid she will be the same way to your child together and he may not want her around the child at all. It sounds like he had a bad experience with his mom growing up and doesn't want her to affect his child. What I would do is take his word about his mother and respect that he doesn't want her to have anything to do with his child, as long as he isn't ashamed of you and the child there has to be some underlying reason he doesn't want his mother to know. I don't think that he is ashamed of you or the child I just don't think he thinks too highly of his mother and this is why he doesn't want his mother around. If it bothers you then you need to communicate that to him and tell him that you feel he is ashamed of you. Ten years is a long time to be dating and not meet his mother which makes me think even more that they have a very estranged relationship. If she can not treat her own son good what makes him think she will be good to you or his child, I really think he is trying to protect you both from something and you may only get your answer if you can find out what that something is. Maybe try asking another family member that you do talk to or someone that knew him growing up and find out what their relationship was like.
That being the case you need tell him that you feel that he is ashamed of you and his child, he at least owes you an explanation about why he doesn't want his family to know about your baby together. It seems strange that he is so secretive with his family about you and the baby. The child is almost 3 years old now you would think that someone has heard a child in the background when they call unless he doesn't talk to his family and if that is the case that could be the reason for him not introducing his child to his family. If I were you I would do some extensive research of his family life growing up and try to find out why he behaves the way that he does concerning you and the child.