I met this young man at work. I did not know him, I would go to luncn, he would come join me, I'd listen to his boo hoo stories about his divorce. I felt sorry for him. He is 38, I'm 54.
I was newly divorced, (the divorce was't even final at that time), I was alone for the first time in about 25 years and I was scared. I had purchased a new home, (another part of this story...I bouht it for my father - that's what led to the divorce). I said something to this young man that I needed some help with maintaining my home he said he'd help with that. So, in the door he came.
My husband tried many times to get me to come home - I said no, I'd wait for dad. So, I waited and waited...dad had reasons why he wouldn't move (just yet). He jokingly said to me, "Oh, you got yourself a "boy toy". Didn't ask him to clarify what that was but I was having fun. I love my ex deeply and regret that I left him in anger over dad,
Three months of fun with this young man came to me throwing him out in anger of his do nothing, no help ways. I'd forget why he was gone and back he came....this repeated over and over.(Oh, he also brought his visitaton with his 7 year old daugter into my life - I'm chldless by choice.) I just lost my home because of my listening to him!
What a mess I've made of the best life I could ever have had!
No, this young destruction is here! Bought this house - I paid the (large) down payment and paid for all the repairs, he was going to pay the mortgage. Letters came from the mortgage company - I didn't open his mail but started getting suspicious when they started comiig 2 a day, I opened one - surprise! - your mortgage is in dafault. New Years Eve, I found a letter taped to the garage door window...your home is going to foreclosure auction January 16, 2009!! This young man is living here for free...no mortgage payment, no utilities payment, no food payments...because his name is XXXXX XXXXX mortgage and mine is not (we're both on the deed). I need him out of my life!!!
My divorce was in 2002. My ex got remarried in 2008.
My question - Do you know anyone who could float this fool $70,000 so I can reclaim this home and throw this young man's ass out for th last time?
Oh -Dad is living here now - he just turned 94, So, the 2 of us, (Dad and ne) are about to be put out on the street. By the way, I'm also visually impaired (blind in right eye and losing sight in left). Can't get Social Security disability because I'm not blind enough!
Isn't this a great life for a 54-year-old college educated woman with smarts to end up in?
What are you doing awake at 3 a.m.? I haven't slept well in months!
Thank you for talking to me. I don't know which way to turn - all I do is cry! I guess you re-enforced what I already knew. Just wanted an outsiders opinion as to whether I was seeing it right. He can continue to calll me a bitch all he wants...I know the truth and I know how my attitude became that.