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I think your co-workers are right you should leave him if he isn't making you happy then you have to find someone that will. It doesn't seem like he is able to communicate without running and leaving you for a period of time and then comes back as if nothing ever happened you need someone that is going to stay with you through the bad and good times and doesn't always run. The fact that his daughter continues to put your son in jeopardy because of the lice and it doesn't seem as if he does anything to help the situation and make it better. He should make her mother be more responsible about getting rid of the lice or call Child Protective Service for neglect that is a form a child neglect to knowingly ignore they have lice and not do everything in her power to get rid of the lice. Although he helps you financially some what I would rather struggle and be alone than to have to put up with everything you go through with him, especially with his children's mothers.
It may be important to find an apartment that you can actually afford so that you can make the rent and have extra money left over, you don't have to stay stuck where you are. If you have a friend you could stay with until you can save the money or have a friend move in with you to help out it would be better than staying in a relationship you are not sure you want to be in, it may at times seem hard to make it alone because there are many single parents making it just fine it was a struggle at first but it got better and the same goes for you. You are going to have to budget your money more if you decide to go it alone but it would be less stressful and this way you can get back out in the dating scene and find someone that will be supportive and who knows how to communicate without running. It's going to be a scary thought but once it is done you will see the difference in your life without all of the added stresses. Just because your relationship might be is over doesn't mean your life is over. Decide what you want your future to look like and then stay focused on it, not the past. Sometimes things just don't work out the way you want them to, let go of what was and look forward to what can be.