I work as a Battalion Chief for a municipal Fire Dept.
I have two children at home ages 15 and 17. I have a step-son who does not live with me and his age is 28.
They have never said that to me directly. I'm being informed by my wife and step-son. It appears they are afraid to be this "honest" with me.
I've been married 18 years.
The sex has been declining for years.
When the subject is brought up...avoidance to deal with the subject would be her action.
Considering marriage counseling? Honestly, no. After a recent heated conversation, I thought I should seek counseling as to remove whatever part I play in this drama. Then, I could seek to bring others to accept their role and get them to seek help.
The only other main issue is that my step-son has been diagnosed as bi-polar. He is not being treated for this condition. My wife feels so guilty for his life with her former alcoholic husband that she has become an enabler. She takes his side on all disputes. I think she believes I'm stronger and able to handle the grief better than he does. However, my only wish is to help this kid and stop any/all poor behavior. For this I'm considered a tyrant.