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The money to pay my bills comes from my allimony and child support. I have three children with my ex husband whom I was married to for 3 years. My children are 7, 5, and 3.
Yes, he has been physical and I always fight back. It usually starts with verbal abuse on his part and then it escalates. I should let you know that all of our fights are over money and the abortion he demanded I have last year. The amount of money he spends at the bar and gambling has been financially devastating, but he keeps telling me that I owe him....
He was in jail for 3 months. They are making him take anger management classes, but he says I am the one who needs them. He wrote me so many letters telling me he realizes he was wrong and how sorry he was, but now he takes it all back. Frequently he will demand money to move out. When I had it I would give it to him, but he would never move out. Now I don't have it, and I don't feel that I should have to pay someone to end a relationship (they should just leave.)
He swears that I can ask every other woman he has dated and that he is not a violent person, but I know for a fact that it is not true.
I am 31 and he is 34
I should also add that I am the one paying for his restitution and domestic violence classes since he can't afford it.
I was with my husband for 12 years and we were never violent with each other. I am just so angry with my boyfriend. He doesn't even act like a boyfriend. He is only affectionate when he wants sex, and he is very selfish about it. The selfishness just hurts me more. I have never been with someone who doesn't care if they hurt my feelings. Last week he really hurt my feelings and I was crying to him about it while telling him he hurt my feelings and he said :you better call 911 c**t because I am going to kill you, so I did and he freaked and when I told him to leave he refused, so I punched him in the nose. The police did come, but he told them that we didn't call and said if I didn't go along with it I would be the one going to jail for domestic violence.
I don't feel like this is man who loves me. I feel like this is a con artist and a dangerous person, but he keeps telling me that it isn't me that it is him. I honestly feel like I am fighting for my dignity and to keep from financial ruin.
Sorry, I realize I need to clarify a few things. He keeps telling me that it is me and not him who is to blame.
Previously I was married to my highschool sweetheart. I met my current boyfriend shortly after my husband told me he was dating his secretary. I suppose the timeline is a little confusing. Let me know if you have any other questions. I am trying to be careful because I don't want him to know that I have asked you these questions.