How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Kate McCoy Your Own Question

Kate McCoy
Kate McCoy, Counselor
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 1555
Experience:  Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
54658078
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
Kate McCoy is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He has

Customer Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He has a condo in Long Beach and I have a studio in Pasadena. He is 37 and I am 27. He's at my studio 99% of the time and sleeps over 100% of the time because he works by my studio. He has a friend, who is a 23 yrs. old girl, who just came here from Swedin and because she wants to become a cop, she can't be around people who has a felony record. She was staying with one of her friends but now she's staying at my boyfriend's condo because she couldn't stay at her friend's place anymore because one of them just got out of prison. This is the story my boyfriend told me. Should I be upset that she moved in? He told me the situation and asked me if I was going to be okay and I told him "yes" but I'm really not. She doesn't have a job but her payback is to clean up his condo because it's a mess. He told me that she's just a friend and they met before he met me and he only gave her a goodbye peck on the lips when she left to Swedin.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.
When did she move in?

Did he ask you how you felt about it before she moved in?

Do you ever spend time at his house?

Does he stay at his condo?

Have you met her/talked to her?

Why would he peck her on the lips as opposed to cheek?

When did she go to sweden?

Chase
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
She moved in last Monday, so it's been about a week and 3 days. Yes, he told me the situation the day before she moved in and asked me how I felt about it and told him it was okay. I'm never at his place because it's about aXXXXXfrom my place. No, he's been there about once and today since she moved in. The day after she moved in he left from my house while I was asleep at 3 in the morning because she called him because his toilet was overflowing, then he came back to my place around 4:40 in the morning after he took care of the plumbing problem. That's about it, other than that, he's never slept at his place. He sleeps at my place and that's what he told me he was going to do from the beginning. I just got off the phone with him and he's at his place with her right now. I'm going to pick him up tonight at his place because he's going to let her borrow his car for tomorrow because she has an appointment with the deputy because she wants to become a cop. I don't know why he gave her a peck on the cheek. I'm not really sure when she went to Sweden, but I know it's right before I met him. Is there anything I should ask him to help you help me?
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.
where did he meet her?

Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?

Chase
Customer: replied 5 years ago.

No. I just don't want to get cheated because it's happened to me too many times

 

Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.
has it happened with him?

Chase
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
Yes, he's been on both sides before and he told me that he knows how it feel and he's matured and doesn't have time to be playing games.
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.
I didn't understand your last response. Has he ever cheated on you? Has he ever given you reason not to trust him?

Chase
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
no, he's never cheated on me before but he's been cheated on and he's cheated before with his ex, so he's been on both sides and he knows how it feels.

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DE/deedeeham/2011-1-24_51523_408.64x64.JPG Dear Debra's Avatar

    Dear Debra

    Advice Columnist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1719
    I have been an Advice columnist for 14 years. My column is published weekly in local newpapers.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy

    Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    1235
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1215
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/CO/CoachJenK/2012-3-9_31019_Jen.64x64.jpg Coach Jen K.'s Avatar

    Coach Jen K.

    LMSW, CPC

    Satisfied Customers:

    726
    Providing the utmost care and support.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    549
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    349
    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/SU/suzmsw/2011-9-2_184634_Thisone.64x64.JPG Suzanne's Avatar

    Suzanne

    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    338
    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Counselor
Kate McCoy
Kate McCoy
Counselor
1555 Satisfied Customers
Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues