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-Was your husband already cooking the dinner?
-Were the guess there when you offered?
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One more question: How old is your step son?
I would call the friend and explain your end of the situation and explain to him that you weren't trying to insult your husband but he seemed frustrated and you just wanted to bail him out so he could enjoy the evening rather than stressing about the food and dinner. I'm sure he already understands what you meant by it but most importantly you need to have a talk with your husband about the way his son reacted and treated you or better yet talk to his son but do not start a fight just tell him he could have worded it better than to say you were being rude when he didn't know what you meant by your offer and that you thought he was disrespecting you when all you were trying to do is help his father out because he was obviously stressing about dinner. I think it was a huge misunderstanding and miscommunication all the way around and this could be fixed through explanation.
I think because his daughters do not talk to him since the divorce he is afraid the son will stop talking to him also and then he will have lost all of his children and this is why he allows him to get away with so much. The son has to grow up and make his own way in life no one can do that for him and if he is getting high then your husband better be careful because it could leave to stronger drugs. You are going to have to stick up for yourself and tell your husband that you are tired of the son thinking he can treat you any way he wants to and not respect you, tell him he needs to put his foot down where the son is concerned if you do not stick up for yourself no one else will do it for you. It's time your husband makes his son grow up and take care of his responsibilities. This is the only way you are going to get peace within the house and if the stepson cannot respect you in your house then he needs to leave. This has been happening way to long and enough is enough, but I would certainly call the friend and apologize for what happened in the house and you leaving so abruptly even though I understand why you did so.