HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on JustAnswer. By the way, it would help us to know:
-What are your ages?
-How long has he been with this woman?
-Are you saying the woman tries to overdose on medication when he is with you and your daughter?
-Could you explain your situation a little more?Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.
It seems like your partner didn't know what type of woman he was getting himself involved with and my caution to you is if she can hurt herself she can easily hurt someone that doesn't mean anything to her so be very very careful how you handle this situation. I don't think she has a hold on him romantically I think he is more afraid of what she might do to herself or to you or your daughter if he didn't go back to her. This woman seems to have some real mental issues going on if she feels she has to harm herself to get him to stay with her then she has lost touch with reality and may need some extensive professional help. If the two of you are to be together he is going to have to deal with this woman and her behavior because he doesn't want someone like that involved in his daughter's life and I would be very careful about letting your daughter be around her AT ALL. I wouldn't get involved with your ex at all until that woman is out of the picture for you and your daughters sake it's just not safe right now.
Tell your ex he needs to make a decision and he needs to make it now and that you will no longer wait for him to make up his mind whether to be with you or someone that is mentally unstable. Tell him you fear for your daughters life and that you don't know what this woman is capable of doing if she doesn't get her way. He needs to see that this is not a healthy relationship for him and that she will only keep using her mental illness to keep him there. As long as he stays with her I would not have anything to do with him because he is putting you and your daughter in a situation where this woman feels threatened by you and there for would do anything to have your ex to herself. Tell him you won't even consider taking him back until she is out of the picture so the only conversation you need to have is about your daughter. He already allowed this woman to control his life don't you allow her to control your life as well and if you allow him to go back and fourth that is what you are doing because all the other woman has to do is threaten to do something to herself or you and he is back with her. I really don't think he is staying for any romantic reasons I think he just doesn't want that woman to commit suicide and then he will have to live with the guilt.