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-What are your ages?
-How long were you together?
-Do he and his wife have children together?
-What was his reasons for leaving you?
-According to his friend he was planning on leaving you for a year now?Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.
All you can do is give him some time that may be what he wants and he knew he could not really think being with you and needs his freedom to think about everything. He seems way more confused than you are right now and knows he won't be able to think clearly with him being with you. You don't have any other choice but to give him some time and then contact him for either an explanation or closure. I think the boss confronting him about you really scared him possibly also,l he doesn't want to lose his job. Just with everything that has happened in the past year or so may be taking their toll on him emotionally and mentally. I would give him at least two weeks to a month to think about things and then ask for your answers to all the questions you have. If he isn't ready to give you that in that amount of time then maybe you should move on because you cannot waste the rest of your life waiting for him to be ready to make up his mind and tell you what he wants.
Hopefully he will take this time to be by himself and not get into yet another relationship without being emotionally ready to put the effort into the relationship you see what he did was split with his wife and then was with you without finding closure in his marriage and making himself emotionally free for you. That is why it is always good to take some time after a breakup and contemplate what went wrong and what part he had in the breakup and what he could fix about himself to not keep making the same mistakes over and over and he did not do that, he should have at least given himself a month to think things through before getting into a relationship with you so fast. I don't understand why if it wasn't affecting your work environment why the boss would feel the need to confront him about a relationship outside of work. What you should do is give him two weeks to a month without any contact and then after that time call him and ask him to talk to you and give you the answer you need to find closure in the relationship.
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