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You don't want to sound pushy or like you want to run the show just reply back to him that you have realized alot of things since you have been apart and that you feel you took him and his dreams for the future for granted tell him that, it may be what he is waiting for, tell him you miss him and care so much about him. Since the two of you have stay on friendly and cordial terms since the break up that is good because you may not have to work as hard as you think you have to. There are three question you should ask yourself before making any moves to win back you ex. Is there still any love left in the relationship? That is the most important question, you shouldn't mistake love with needing company, when trying to get your ex back, you need to dig deep within yourself and be honest. Do you still love him but most importantly do you feel he is still in love with you? If the answer is yes, then the chances of making up with your ex are very good.
What caused the breakup and what would need to change? One of the most important issues in a relationship is what was the main problem that needs to be changed. If the issues that caused the breakup are not corrected, the chances of it happening again are very possible. Once you have figured out what the main caused of the breakup was, you can concentrate on that issue and correct it but most chances are that if the patterns that were formed during the previous relationship are not changed then it is more than likely it will happen again but try to remember one thing, you cannot change other people but you can change yourself start by changing yourself and what you thought you did wrong in the relationship. Are you committed to making the relationship work this time? You must understand that nothing ever happens without commitment. If you did not commit yourself into making the relationship work the second time around and your ex also does not fully commit to make things work, then it probably will not work, if both of you are able to resolve the main issue that caused the breakup the first time around and are committed to not letting it happen again, then the chances are very good that you will be able to make up.
You have to talk to him about your feelings and what you want and then ask him want he wants this way you both will know if you are both on the same page. If you are too aloof you may not ever get him back when he contacted you that was his way of making the first move and if you sound too friendly then he may take that as all you want to be, tell him you have been thinking about him and the relationship alot lately show him you are interested and see how he reacts if he reacts uncaring then ask him if the two of you can get together for lunch or dinner and talk. Then tell him that you are sorry for taken him for granted and not considering what he wanted out of the relationship and that you love him and want to try again. If you do not act now you may not get another chance to win him back.
It never hurts to try, so many people assume because the relationship ended that there is never another chance and therefore they don't pursue a chance and live their lives regretting not making an effort you don't want to become one of those people if you tell him how you feel and that you miss the relationship and want it back he will either accept your offer and you will try again or he will refuse and then you know you will have to find closure and take steps to move on without him. Either way you will have the answers to your questions. I think the two of you love each other and that will help you through this and possibly back to each other. Don't be one of those people that sit back one day and wonder what if I would have only told them how I feel, don't regret not trying.