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After a trust has been broken it is always hard to think of trusting again. If you are forgiving him it is then you must try to let go of the past and move forward with an open mind. You both have to have open communication and try to learn from the mistake to make your relationship better together. This will take time of course it is no small feat but it can be done if your both willing to try. Counseling could also helps your boyfriend find the deep rooted reason for him cheating with prostitutes he could be a sex addict, the counselor can find that out.
Forgiveness is the most hardest things to give and it takes time to get over what he has done to your relationship but if both of you make an effort to make the relationship work and healthy again. I'm a firm believer that all people can change and I don't believe the saying once a cheater always a cheater I feel that with respect and self control people can change and be faithful to their mate but they have to truly want to change for the better and become a better person. Anger is the one emotion that keeps us from forgiven someone that has done us wrong. Don't do this just because you want your daughter to have her father in her life do it only if you are ready to forgive and give him another chance.
Don't expect things to get better overnight it took some time to get bad and it's going to take even longer for things to be good again and the trust to be there. If you do decide to take him back then you have to leave the past in the past and if you ever find yourself resenting him be honest with him about your feelings so that the two of you can talk it out. Try giving each other two date nights a week to reconnect get a babysitter and go out to the movies or out to eat or to a club and find each other again and find out what made you fall in love with him in the first place. If you say this is out of character for him then he may have a sex addiction or the start of a sex addiction. The counseling should be an option that you have him do before you let him back in he has to realize what he did was wrong and work out why he did it.
Don't blame yourself for his indiscretions and don't allow him to put the blame on every woman gains weight when they have a baby. He is going to have to do a lot of soul searching and work before you can ever trust him again and the main question is, is he worth giving him another chance? If he is going to use your gaining weight because you are bringing his baby into world then he is showing that he may not be the most supportive boyfriend but the final decision is yours to make just make sure you make the right decision for you.