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Your husband seems to have a severe sex addiction and has replaced human contact with virtue contact, being married to a sex addict makes you feel alone and deserted and unwanted because he would rather go to porn site than to make love you to his wife. He needs some extensive counseling but he won't get the help unless he is able to admit that he has a problem. The porn sites have contributed to the demise of you the marriage, you seem to be silently suffering tremendous damage to your self-worth in the marriage, blaming yourself for my husband's problem. You need to know that this isn't your fault and that your husband has a serious addiction and it seems that nothing else matters but the porn and pleasing himself not taking into consideration you or your son's feelings. His addiction to pornography may be filling your life with feelings of failure, shock, devastation, and hopelessness and now that he is ready to leave you don't know what to do or how to react. It could very well be that he is seeing other women or hiding something since he cannot stay home and leaves to do his dirty deeds.
This is making you blame yourself for something you had no control over like you said you are more than willing to give your husband the sexual things he needs but he is emotionally connected to the porn sites now and once they are emotional gone from the marriage it makes it twice as hard to get that back but it's not impossible if you can talk him into seeking help from a Marriage counselor or even a Sex Therapist but he has to be willing to at least try it and if he isn't ready to deal with this addiction it may be best for you to try a trial separation. Sex addicts are a lot likes other addictions drug, gambling, alcohol, they try to cover up what they are doing from their family so they do it away from home or hide somewhere in the home that the wife or family cannot find out, they make excuses for why they are doing what they do usually they blame other people instead of looking within themselves. He is giving up on the marriage because it's easier than giving up his porn right now most addicts don't do anything about their addiction until they hit rock bottom and have lost everything this may be the case with your husband he hasn't hit rock bottom yet so he isn't ready to get help for his issue, prime example is that he is willing to lose you and his son in order to continue to do what he is doing.
You now have to do what is best for you and your son and allow your husband to go his own way if he isn't willing to get help and try to save his marriage, you cannot make him go to counseling if he is pushed too far it will make things worse and make him want to go to the porn or to the other women if there are any other women. He is in denial that this is wrong and he shouldn't be doing this. The sex addiction and porn has become his marriage now. You need to let him go and find out on his own what he is giving up and destroying with this addiction. Like all addictions they are willing to give up everything along with their pride for their addiction. Don't continue to be miserable when he doesn't want the help, talk to him about getting help and ask him to at least try it and if his answer is no then you know you have to leave for yours and your son's sake.