Sorry. Lots of kissing. No hand jobs. He went down on me. (Since he thought he didn't have it orally since he had never had an oral breakout before.) I did not go down on him. He is now worried that he already gave it to me. I need an annual pap in the next week or so anyway and am planning on getting the blood test for it while there just to check. There is the chance that I already had it and that he got the oral from going down on me. My main issue is really what can I say or do to not let him slip away simply because he is afraid of infecting me? -- besides any medical teaching because he is extremely knowledgable about it. He knows there's always a risk of infecting even without an outbreak. What's new is that now he knows he can orally. Which is why he's saying he won't even kiss me anymore. If my test comes back positive that could solve everything, but assuming I'm negative, what can I do?