chase you have great insight. We broke up for 5 weeks. He called me and said he missed me but the "staring at guys thing is eating him up and effecting me as well. We got back together but he says he needs to take it slow. He feels he was the hurt party and that he never felt I truly cared for him. It hurts me that he isn't staying over as much although he still comes over and stays one night instead of two. Says it isn't going to be the same - not cooking for me. He's making a stand. We talk daily. I try not to bring up the "issue". I feel as if he is punishing me. I feel I need to give him so much time lest this go on and on and on. He says he is trying. I can't figure out why he wanted to get back together. I get mixed messages from him. On one hand I think he loves me, and on the other, I don't. He never says he loves me but at one time "pre staring", he went out of his way to come here. Lives an hour away. I don't want to let go of him and he won't let go of me. What is going on here? I feel I do love him but where can he be coming from? He has had bad experiences with women: cheating on each other, dishonesty. Had a girlfriend a few yrs. ago but hasn't had many. I look forward to hearing from you.
chase, pls. respond to the above. nancy