When I asked him. Just before I asked him if we were OK
I am 37 and he is 42 (he is my first boyfriend)
The fights were about comments made by him that hurt my feelings and his very strong reaction to me being upset at him. A thing you have to understand is that his Father was very abusive to him and his Mom. My Dad was very abusive to me and my Mom. This is why I do not want to have that type of relationship. I want the cycle to stop. This is why I never have disrespected, yelled or cussed him out. I have tried to make him understand that relationships do not live in a bubble. Thus, sometimes we are going to get upset at each other. But we must respect one another, because that is what I want our relationship to be based on.