Hi Ms Chase, I am a divorced mother of two, aged 43. He is 44 and was married once for a very short period but has no children. We did not live together. He is speaking to a friend who is a psychologist about some therapy recommendations. He felt that our communications were ineffective and that we couldnt resolve issues and that I couldnt make decisions. I made decisions which he never liked, so I asked him to decide. He never seemed happy. For example, he would complain that I didnt spend enough time with him and also complain that he felt that he needed to entertain me when I didn't have the children. He would state he would want something light for dinner and I would make suggestions which he would shoot down, and then be upset that he would have to decide.
I reasoned away his unhappiness to his workload, stress, cold feet.
So now we are broken up, as of two weeks ago, and he suggested therapy. I asked him how we could go to therapy if we are broken up and cant work on resolving things between sessions. He says that our communications are so ineffective and that he is so frustrated that he can't continue on the same way.
I don't know how therapy would work if we dont speak or dont see each other except at therapy. But I am not a therapist, so I don't know if this is something that may work.
I hope this information has been helpful.
I'm sorry but I didn't expect a response to my statement. I won't be paying you for your response, I hope you understand.
Hi Ms Chase,
Update. He decided against therapy and with further digging, I confronted him and he confessed to cheating since September. I figure he fessed up because he had nothing to lose. He said he was really bad at ending relationships but excuses don't mean anything to me. I feel betrayed, angry, sad, and so many more negative feelings. This was man that six months ago said he would take care of my children if anything happened to me. Anyway, the end. I am seeking therapy locally because my exhusband had cheated on me as well and I don't feel I can trust anyone again. You don't need to respond, I just wanted to let you know.