How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask KimberlyF Your Own Question

KimberlyF , Longtime Relationship Expert
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 750
Experience:  Relationship expert for almost three years with
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
KimberlyF is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

I recently attended my husbands sons wedding and was asked

Resolved Question:

I recently attended my husband's son's wedding and was asked to pose for a photograph on the outside church steps immediately after, as the congregation surrounded in observance. After the photograph, which included my husband, the bride and groom, the bride requested that I step down for my husband's exwife to replace my position for the several family pictures that followed.   Therefore, I was not to be a part of the family picture that included my parents-in-law, my brother-in-law, etc. I found myself in the midst of 100 observers, as I asked my husband to join me as I left the steps, while the bride implored my husband to remain. Each already knew the pain I felt as a result of earlier incidents, such as my exclusion from a party in which "only the real parents" were included. I have never felt more humiliated, ambushed, and disreputed. The pain has been agonizing. I believe I should have been forewarned so that I could make a choice of attendance. How do I get my inlaws to stop?
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  KimberlyF replied 7 years ago.


You need to be honest about how it hurt you, if you sit back and not say anything this type of behavior is going to continue. It's almost as if they are dismissing you as being part of the family now. Maybe talk to your husband and tell him you are tired of being treated this way and that you do not derserve such treatment. You should have been asked to stay and then they include the husband's ex wife. The Bride and Groom probably didn't want to leave anyone out and didn't want to feel like they were taking sides. If you don't like the treatment you have been receiving then you have to voice your feelings either to your husband so that he can say something to them or to them yourself.


You can't really make them stop or make them resepct you, you can only tell them that these things that they do hurt you and that you are part of the family now and want to be included in things that your husband is invited to. I think the reason they asked you step down is because they wanted their parents in the picture by themselves and that if you were included in one photo then that should have been good enough for you but what they should have done was kept you in the picture and included their real mother. I really think your husband should handle this situation seeing that it is his family that is doing this to you, you don't really want to seem like the bad guy or seem like you are trying to start trouble witnin the family but you shouldn't let them keep getting away with that. I think if they realize that their son is noticing how they are treating you they will try harder to include you in things.

KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 750
Experience: Relationship expert for almost three years with
KimberlyF and other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Previous | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX

Meet The Experts:

  • Kate McCoy

    Kate McCoy


    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
< Last | Next >
  • Kate McCoy's Avatar

    Kate McCoy


    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues
  • Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist


    Satisfied Customers:

    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • Ms Chase's Avatar

    Ms Chase

    Life Coach

    Satisfied Customers:

    Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
  • Alicia_MSW's Avatar



    Satisfied Customers:

    Specializing in relationship/family counseling
  • Dr. Norman Brown's Avatar

    Dr. Norman Brown

    Marriage Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples
  • Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L


    Satisfied Customers:

    Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.
  • Suzanne's Avatar


    Therapist, LCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

Related Relationship Questions