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-How long have they been dating?
-How long have they been engaged?
-Did your son know she was pregnant with someone else's baby?
-Have you voiced your concerns to your son?Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.
You need to talk to your son and tell him your concerns for the relationship he has with this woman. Her being pregnant when they met should have been a huge red flag for him but we have to allow our children to make their own mistake and learn from them. If she doesn't have much to offer him in the way of emotionally then it may purely be sexual. She seems to like to control her men to the point that they need no one but her in their lives and she may be slowly trying to alienate him from you so that you can not cause problems for them or be involved in their lives. Depending upon who broke up with whom, you may be right that he didn't give himself time to heal from the break up and find himself again before he jumped into this relationship. It's important that you talk to your son in order for you to have peace of mind about this woman and her intentions with your son. Plan a lunch when you know she will be working or won't be around and then voice your concerns and tell him you wouldn't interfere if you didn't love him and care about him. He can do one of two things: Appreciate that you care about him or get angry that you are interfering and if he does the latter then it may be time to let him make his own mistakes and hope that this woman doesn't destroy him.