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found out July 30th. i snooped on his cell phone and called the number. Confronted him, he denied it then admitted it then promised to stop. I snooped again September7th and dug deeper and found out he had benn calling every dau all along and never stopped. I do not trust him now and I want to yet I don't know how to. I fear the relationship needs to end
Your boyfriend needs to find out what it is he wants if he wants women or men. If he hid it from you all of this time after promising that he wouldn't do it any longer then he has a real issue. It seem he is bi curious and will not get it out of his system until he deal with his feelings honestly and no longer lies to himself or you. If he was only curious when you asked him to stop he would have been able to do so but he didn't which could mean that he liked what he saw and is now obsessed with gay chat lines. You will not have him and all of him because the chat lines have a part of his attention now so either he is going to have to get rid of that curiosity by either experience a gay relationship or seeking counseling because it seems that no matter how much he tried he couldn't stop from being drawn to the gay chat lines.
His curiosity may be more than what you thought it was, the trust has been broken and now you will keep wondering if he is still calling the chat lines and talking to other guys, if he can lie to you about calling the gay chat how do you know he hasn't been meeting these guys for private meetings. You have to protect yourself and do what you think is best for you and he has to either seek help or figure it out which sex he wants a relationship with and until he can do that honestly and without lies it may be best to give him time to figure this all out and decide what it is that he wants.
Thank you I wish I could talk to you more but I am financially strapped and can not afford to, please email me if you want Thank you Karen
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